Shades of Grayout: Spiritual Redemption

At what degree of sincerity can a person engage in a platonic relationship without completely lying to themselves?  And here are his and my choices:

He probably likes AW for sex better because she is younger and thinner.  She is also a felon and alcoholic.  Maybe dual alcoholism is compatible but I don't see it that way.   Dual alcoholism in a relationship causes distortions in needs.  It also drives each person to become more demanding, fearful and clouded.  Both parties listed have been guilty of that.  There also have been times when disproportionate blame has been placed on me.  I was not the infiltrator.  I was invited into MM's life because he was dissatisfied with his current situation in October, 2018.  In many ways, I am glad I am out of the loop.  I still have grievances listed below.  

 I would think MM would want someone like his mother.

I play the piano, I have 3 college degrees including at Bachelor of Science, teaching license and Masters.  I am prettier but not thinner.  I am older.   I am empathetic to his weaknesses.  When he is not around conflict, he is a nice person.  I am not his gf and I would have a hard time dating an alcoholic but because my father's closet drinking plagued my life.  I would force him to stop drinking or cut down to 2 drinks a day.  I would make him go to church on Sundays a.m. or Sunday nights.  I believe this is the essential to reform.  I would also have him engage in counseling. 

Life isn't about getting your immediate needs met and "hoping" things work out and being temporarily satisfied with a partner.  Life is about serving God and a higher goal.  If a partner supplements that need, then it makes you or I a stronger person.  If our eyes are only focused on our immediate needs then we can never see the big picture?  Does your life/work reflect a higher calling?  Are you serving your fellow man to the best of your ability?  Are you compassionate towards other people?  Do you take in regard their shortcomings as you do yours?  Are you qualified to be a servant of God?