What it's really about

Eventually this blog has to go back to the rightful owner which is me and about my life experiences.  That means, no one can dictate me.  I have kept certain promises out of a mutual bargaining agreement.  There is no more room for bargaining because the immediate and long term goals are not achieved.

Friendship is give and take.  When I find myself in a position in which I can no longer help a close friend with critical life choices and I perceive a great trial about to take place, I have chosen to recede.  I am not doing any good in witnessing about my former addiction and it ended up my friend and I were hurting each other too much.  There is also a perception problem with alcohol involved.  When someone drinks, I cannot effectively communicate what I am trying to advocate.  It's clouded with their line of thought.

I didn't have an ulterior motive but the person could not see that I was willing to be there for them.  It's just that this person did not want to take the first step.  I am leaving that guidance up to the primary person in his life.

Everything ended on a kinder note and I could slip away without too much collateral damage.  I am thankful that each person could recognize some value achieved within each others life.